There is this big contrast between some people who seem to be having massive success in network marketing today and the others who keep struggling in spite of lots of effort.

The difference between them is attitude!

Just recently I made a YouTube on attitude where I sum up about it – you might want to check it out.

Attitude is a personal quality which  to a large extent is programmed by our environment from early childhood onwards. However, once we grow up we have it in our hands to replace those parts of our basic programming which we find do not serve our purpose in life.

Attitude can be “re-programmed” too. It is a process you cannot do it by pressing a button, but once you are alerted to the need of it and you actually want it you can do it.

The first step will be to spot the bits you want to change. Are you perhaps one of those people who in a conversation with others find it easy to agree on the surface by saying “yes, BUT”? I give you an example. I show you a way how to create leads in network marketing today. You listen carefully and then you reply: Yes, I perfectly understand where you are coming from, but don’t you think I could do it that and that way? Hm – as a matter if fact you have only humored me,  however, you  have said NO between the lines.

This kind of attitude is not very obvious and most people will consider it charming behaviour and  interaction, yet it is limiting. It limits your willingness of being coachable. Does this serve you? Certainly not!

Once you are alerted to the topic you will start noticing it when you are interacting. At first perhaps a little annoyed, then over time you will grin and know you have “caught yourself” once again in the old pattern. You will start noticing the same behaviour in many others and eventually you will stop it.

Wow – you have grown! Spot the next handicap in your programming and start working on it.

You may say this is hard – yes, may be it is, but it is very well worth your time.

If you are willing to accept support in this venture find yourself a mastermind group of like-minded people.Your progress will be a lot faster and it will be more fun to share and learn, as you won’t feel alone in the desert with a task which is a challenge.

The best thing, if you are stepping into this process because you want to have success at network marketing, would be to join a mastermind group of network marketers – that will cover two topics in one stroke. You will grow and you can improve other skills at the same time, no matter in which business you are.

To Your Attitude of Success

Frieke Karlovits

A Mentor with A Servant’s Heart

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For a number of posts I have been speaking about all  sorts of odds in network marketing today.

Many of these odds have been around for a long time.

Hopefully some of them will eventually die and disappear as more and more leaders are stepping up to educate people so that they will no more be doomed to failure in having success in their network marketing business.

Time is constantly moving and everything in life is  subject to evolution – may it be positive or negative. Therefore, to stay “on the pulse” of network marketing today it is good to hear from YOU!

Let us know what your biggest challenges are!

Where are YOU stuck and need help?

It is the willingness to speak up about such issues which opens the path to getting some answers which may well break your obstacle.

You can speak up by posting a comment to this blog post or you can send me a private email with “my biggest challenge” in the subject line.

I’ll do my utmost best to give you answers and support if you feel you want it so that you can start your success in building a network marketing business today.

To Your Success

Frieke Karlovits

A Mentor With A Servant’s Heart

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What a hot topic! Let me at first limit it to every day life – a life of normal human relationships and business. When you look round on the internet to find out how to proceed in taking your business there, you are at first overwhelmed by the number of offers which keep pouring in. Every single offer sounds tempting, rewarding and interesting when you look at it as an uninformed “newby”. It is not only the new medium which makes things so complex it is also the general low knowledge about the industry of network marketing.

It is recognised truth by now – or at least it should be – that network marketing is not a selling business, but a business of building people. Knowing this it becomes clear that “truth” is relative. When it comes to dealing with people there is no standard, no data sheet which constitutes the truth, but there is the truth of universal ethics and respect, a quality which everyone knows but apparently only few can actually muster. There are a number of true facts which can be determined, like having a sound and mutually beneficial contract, commission plans which pay as they are claimed they will without having hidden snags which an average person cannot understand until they are trapped. Another truth which is critical – the willingness to give support in a genuine way which makes people succeed without having to distort the information, the background of a company which ought to be solid from the founders to their intentions and business handling. This list already shows that recognising the truth may be a challenge at times.

The area of half truths, however is by far bigger. As many of the points listed above are a challenge to recognise, it becomes easy to spread half truths, like tell people how good a company is although insiders know that the founders might not have a clean history or “bragging” about a commission plan although it may be clear to the “savvy” that is based on the failure of many, praising a product highly although it can be worked out easily that it is twice or even more the price it is worth. Even offering support where it is obvious within short that no average person can ever be successful with that kind of proposed action or even sell tools to people who are in no position to judge what value they get and who despair as they are not having success although it is not their fault and they are perfect the way they are, as Michael Dlouhy keeps pointing out.

Lots of points contained in the second group can very well also be considered to be lies. The only thing that puts them in the category of half truths is the fact that many people who proclaim them are not aware of the problems themselves and believe what they are proclaiming and this makes education on the topic such a challenge. How to explain to someone who believes what he/she proclaims that in essence they are riding the wrong horse. Very often they have to fall first, some of them deep, before they are willing to listen, to learn!

There is this old prayer: “Please let me understand what I need to understand, and let me bear what I have to bear and please let me have the wisdom to distinguish between the two”.

With that I wish you wisdom for the challenges you face

Frieke Karlovits

Your Mentor with A Servant’s Heart

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A lot has been written on this subject,  how to achieve your goals. At first sight it seems simple, yet once you start working with people you are in for a big surprise.

When I first started to talk to people I naively asked them about their goals and found in many cases a total blank. Goals? What’s that, should I have some, I thought this is about football and many other surprising replies. It is surprising how many people get depleted by life and their surroundings that they forget it all, as children usually know very well what they want in life and from life.

So the first step needs to be to open up a perception for this kind of approach. A conversation about dreams or what they might do if money was no issue in life as a rules creates a willingness to start thinking about this topic. This is an intermediate goal in itself. A first step of bringing someone back to life! With increasing willingness vision or dream workshops are a good way to proceed.

Part of this process is creating the awareness that “loving oneself” is not an expression of ego, but a necessity and basis for a fulfilled life as well as a foundation of being prepared to work on goals and eventually set them and go for them.

An excellent support in this process is the book “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill which was already written in 1937, yet which is very useful reading and learning even today. Napoleon Hill gives very precise instructions as to how to proceed with personal development, setting of goals and much more.

Although I have been doing a lot about personal development for years I find that working through this book within a mastermind group is a challenge and opens yet other perspectives and doors.  In fact Napoleon Hill talks and explains a lot about the value of a mastermind group and it is fascinating to see it happen in practice.

Once the goals are set and charged in the right way drawing them to life is a natural consequence. It can be compared to building a house – if the planning is perfect the actual building is work, but the outcome is set.

Frieke Karlovits,

Your Mentor with a Servant’s Heart

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