Recollect – how do you interact with your best friends?  Are you talking about your dreams and visions in life, laughing, teasing, supporting each other?

Or is it all talking about the problems in your life,  complaining, worrying, gossip, and other negative stuff ?

Your self esteem and self confidence is largely determined by who you spend time with, and what you are sharing when you are together.

There is this notion that “you are the average of the 5 people” you hang around with. If these 5 people have a positive attitude and move forward in life you are likely to be on the same tack. It may get you down, however, if these friends or acquaintances have a narrow and limiting attitude towards life.  This basic rule applies to an overwhelming extent also to our success curve in network marketing or the home based business you do.

If you want to feel good about yourself, want to have success, be a glowing example you have to take a serious look at your friendships and the people you surround yourself with.

Answer these five questions for yourself:

1. Do you have healthy friendships?
Now what does it mean “having a healthy friendship”. Let us say here that in a healthy friendship both sides feel happy, content and supported and yet they don’t feel limited by the interaction as there are no conditions attached.

When you look at your friends do you feel that you need to follow their advice even if it goes against your grain, or do you occasionally let your friend down? Are you too much part of each other’s life? If so you might have to adapt your friendship a bit.

2. Do your friends support you in achieving your dreams?
Are you perfectly comfortable with your friends when you  are speaking about your dreams with  them and do they give you support and motivation ? Or do they “protect you” and point out all the possible reasons why you will never be able to achieve your dreams?

3. Can you discuss the positive aspects of life with your friends?
Do you inspire each other by discussing what is great in life and in your business? Do you brainstorm positive solutions to problems and challenges when you are together or do you tend to get hooked up in problems?

The world is a mirror, the Law of Attraction clearly says that you get what you focus on. This is spiritual  physics and your choice is to set your focus right!

4. Are your friends grateful for what good they have life?
Are your friends pleased and grateful for what they have? Do they freely share their abundance? Do they support the energy of Earth in a positive way? Are you grateful to have them in your life or even in your business?

5. Are you happy when you spend time with your friends?
Next time you have a get together with your close friends observe if you actually do feel light and happy, weighed down or irritated!

At times life and business require decisions, not every day is an easy one. A positive friend will lift you up and brighten your day, point out your strengths and believe in you till believe in yourself again.

It is a gift to have a real good friend who is fully present in a loving and supportive way. Feel blesses indeed if you have friends like that and make sure that you are such a wonderful friend too.

Frieke Karlovits

Your Mentor With A Servant’s Heart

Sit down in a pub or some other place and listen to what people are talking -  There is this woman who has been on the first pages of a magazine, featured as the top business person of the year or the man who built a multi million Dollar business from scrap or that guy who actually got rich in MLM. I mean you know what I am talking about?

People who become rich always become the center of gossip. You will hear all sorts of comments like – well “she has had the right background, the right education, incredible luck,…” and a lot more along these lines. There is no doubt in people’s heads that  these are the dominant criteria for having achieved success, “luck” . Statements like these scream “ENVY” even though nobody will own up it! Attitude is a word never considered by the man in the street who spends his time in spreading gossip.

Let us investigate into this topic. What needs to be done to achieve extraordinary success:

• You need to have the mindset for success
• A written goal and dream
• A definite plan – and
• You need to take massive action

Mindset

What’s mindset to do with success? Unless your thought centers around success nothing will happen. It is our subconscious mind which has a major part in what we manifest. Yet as Napoleon Hill says, the subconscious is dumb it accepts whatever is fed to it, no matter if positive, sad, negative or whatever. It is surprising! Mostly when people meet up with negative stuff they get heated and emotional about it and it is emotion which conditions thoughts that they are readily accepted by the subconscious. No wonder that so few people manifest wealth.

To be able to manifest wealth you have to program the subconscious with  thoughts about wealth and they have to be charged with emotion to make the subconscious understand. In a world where negativity prevails this wealth programming of the subconscious is a task which has to be performed on a regular basis with the necessary emotion and faith attached to it. Only perseverance in this topic will create the required results.

Written Goal and Dream

To be able to program the subconscious well,  a written goal and dream is essential support. It keeps you focused on the regular task of programming the subconscious. Manifestation takes time so this focus is a needed tool.

Definite Plan

When we keep working with our subconscious the means how we can achieve our goal and dream will pop up and we need to implement it into our definite plan. If you don’t pay attention to the input of your “gut feeling” you may miss out on information given to you by the infinite intelligence and your manifestation may not happen or happen at a later stage after you have mastered this step.

Massive Action

It is a well know truth – it is not enough to know we need to do it – to implement what we have learned!

Most people are totally unawares of these mental laws which explains why they don’t succeed or only on a moderate scale yet some have understood these laws and succeed at an astounding rate.

In every single business you will benefit greatly when you take this to heart and particularly if you want to build  a successful MLM business.  It is a necessity! Connect with people who understand these principles and help you apply them. I want to extend my gratitude to Michael Dlouhy who teaches these principles in an excellent way.

Frieke Karlovits

A Mentor With A Servant’s Heart