Is this  provocation?

No!    You need to listen!              

This is the first rule in network marketing today!

Our loud and media dominated world listening to another person  has been lost or nearly lost.

People are lonely even in a crowd – nobody is interested any more  to listen to the joys and sorrows of another person – they are far to busy rushing through life catching – what? Mostly they don’t even know what they are after. Everyday life is eating them up.

Make a difference. Look someone in the eye and listen to what they have to say – listen without adding anything in your thought or without interfering. Listen till they have finished. They might go a totally different trail in their expression than you would have expected.

Having been honoured in such a way they will automatically want to know about you.

This kind of heart to heart communication is the foundation for trust and friendship.

Listening without an agenda and then proceeding to the advantage of the one who has confided in you – again without an agenda will set you off as a leader of a special kind.

You will grow as a person and you will build friendships and  business partners who are friends and who will stick with you anyways.

Make it an extraordinary trip. It is worth it. Be the leader you are intended to be.

Frieke Karlovits

A Mentor with a Servant’s Heart.

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A Mentor With a Servant’s Heart has become somewhat a term in the mentoring scene for network marketing today.

It sounds good and seems easy and in a way it is. However when you look closer and a little deeper, there are aspects which do need additional attention.

People tend to smile when the discussion is around mind reading. Very often it is not taken serious, but in fact we do it all the time if we know it or not.

I think everybody has this experience that we trust somebody at first sight or we are weary about somebody no matter how long that person may be around us and even more so if the person doesn’t give any reason for this weariness.

The difference is in the mindset of the people in question. Those who approach us without and “agenda” in mind, simply being open to communicate and be friendly and eventually perhaps become friends, they are the ones where we feel comfortable spontaneously.

And those where we have this weariness, this uneasiness which persists – well, as a rule we find out at some stage that they have an “agenda” on their mind. To make this more precise – when you look at business it may be those  who offer us  training on the forefront, however, at the back of their mind they have a distinct personal desire to have us in their network marketing business. As a rule the surface wears thin after a while and the true colour shows up.

A mentor with a servant’s heart will be taken as such if there is no agenda in mind.

There is this saying in network marketing – if you help enough people your success is a direct result. Of course it is. If you help people with their well-being at heart they feel it, no matter if they acknowledge it or not. And there will be for sure some among them who are on the look out for a business opportunity and when they are comfortable around you and happy with what you provide they will gladly join in with you. In fact they will ask you if you are willing to take them into your business so that you can help them to be successful in what they are doing – it is their business even though they have signed up with you!

In a previous post I spoke about working with the volunteers – that’s how it works.

To Your Heart-felt Success

Frieke Karlovits

A Mentor With A Servant’s Heart

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As somebody who is roaming the internet on a quest of building a home business you for sure have seen plenty of programs for network marketers which promise you plenty of leads on auto-pilot – 20 per day and more.

Now help me think – and I am not going to debate if this is possible or not – let’s simply  assume it is possible – after all it is being propagated by so many.

You get your first 20 leads. To call them to start a relationship will take you a few minutes per person – let’s say only about 5 minutes – this, together with the notes you will have to make will take you roughly 2 hours. You will say – that’s easy. Now the next day you have another 20 leads, again about 2 hours work, the 3rd day and the remaining days of the week too – in all 14 hours a week. Wow you were good you actually pulled it through to spend 2 hours per day on your business. You are proud of yourself -  you have found the magic wand in network marketing!

However – see the second week – you have some follow up activities for about 140 people. It needs to be done as you are aware “one contact is no contact” – if you take it at steps it will mean about an hour a day for the various follow up activities, but now there are the next 20 leads per day too and altogether you end up with 3 hours per day. Wow this is starting to become real work – 21 hours a week.

Consider the third week – you have 280 people for the follow up activities half for the first round, half for the second round and you are good, you can do this in a couple of hours and of course the 2 hours for the new leads………..I hope you get me! You in fact start wondering how this can be duplicable in a profession where the major percentage of people are having their main job on top of it and of course lots of them have family ties and obligations too. Hm – and yet you keep telling them “you’ll be getting 20 leads per day on auto-pilot” – but strangely enough you are not relaxed any more when you propagate this…….

When you have to call so many people you automatically  have an agenda – your agenda will be time and your capacity to remember, don’t forget: notes don’t do all – your prospects become more and more aware that you are not actually listening to them but doing a kind of routine job – they sense that you are stressed out and in a hurry when all they want is being heard – heard for whatever they might need in their business. The feeling that they are kind of treated as numbers is cropping in and …

after a few more weeks time very likely you will wake up because you see that in spite of all the well organised and massive work you are doing for your MLM business people don’t stay on, don’t connect with you, but instead move on to find someone with whom they will be “a person with a problem” who is seeking a coach and mentor who will listen to them without an agenda and help them to overcome their difficulties, to develop the skills they need, to grow as a person as, to achieve more you have to become more.

This personal growth factor does not only apply to your new people and business relationships, but it applies very much so also to yourself. When you work with people in a heart felt and respectful way you grow yourself and after a while you will be an awesome leader – loved and respected not only by the own group but by everyone  around you.

So what do you think – do you want to be someone’s relationship on auto-pilot or do you much rather go the human way, building life-long relationships of friendship and trust?

Frieke Karlovits

Your Mentor With A Heart For People

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